Should He Love You More Than You Love Him?

Dear Portland,

Have you ever heard the saying..."he should love you more than you love him?" And if so, what is your opinion.

Signed, Just Asking

Dear Just Asking,

Yes, I've heard that adage many times. Usually from mature, wise, sometimes married women (mother, grandmother, aunt etc.) and men providing single women advice about men. Some women think it is very true and some completely toss it to the side as something similar to an old wives tale. What it means is... the relationship is much more likely to be a success; meaning dating and marriage that is, if the man has more interest than the woman. 

Listen, we've all had a girlfriend who obviously has deeper feelings than her man in the relationship and she makes a fool out of herself by going above an beyond what "we would do" for a man.  She buys him gifts, let's him drive her car...just a laundry list of craziness where she's convinced herself that he is the right man and she needs to prove her love for him...yeah, right!  We may call her a dummy; coincidentally a man making a fool of himself for a women is called romantic. Is that fair? No, but rarely are affairs of the heart. It's a double standard at best.
 
As for the adage itself, I think there is some validity to it. Here's why...

From a relationship standpoint most couples aren't romantically interested at the same level especially in the beginning of the relationship. Usually Ideally, he likes you and shows that by attempting to "convince" or "win you over" by taking you to dinner, the movies, concerts, wine festivals etc. in an attempt to "convince" you that he is a good man with the hope that you will like him in return and ultimately become his girlfriend.  The adage originates from him expressing his interest in a women much more than she does to him (e.g...dates, flowers, time etc.) or courting her.

I have a friend who was not attracted to her now husband when they first met.  He's  handsome, smart, educated and has turned out to be a good provider and father to thier children. Thing is, she liked that "other" type of guy.  The player, gaslighting dude she had to work with.  The one where she had to plan all the dates and had to eventually ask "where is this going?" And his response was some dumb random look of confusion.  Yeah, that guy!  But she woke up- and quick (thank goodness).  She realized that her now husband who did all the right things and pursued her like a gentlemen was the one that she ultimately knew was the best choice which made her fall in love with him.

So my opinion, is always keep this adage in the back of your mind when dating and entering into a relationship. Use it as a barometer to determine the level of interest and feelings that a man has for you and how he expresses them.

Just Answering Love,

Portland

How Do I Get Rid of Miss Right Now, So I Can Get With Miss Right?

Dear Portland,

I’m a smart, educated,  relatively attractive man who is currently seeing Miss Right Now.

She’s cute, likes me a lot and the sex is good—but there is no real connection with us. She's a nice girl but she doesn’t seem to have a mind of her own and she’s so agreeable and somewhat immature. She stays at my house often because, I get lonely, and it’s easier for sex. She’s insecure that I will cheat on her. The problem is she wants a commitment and I’m starting to get nervous that she will start trippin’ or worse—get pregnant, although she says she’s on the pill.

To make matters worse, I’ve had a crush on this nice looking, intelligent, single woman at my gym for awhile but have been too nervous to ask her out--because she seems out of my league. But when we talk, I feel like we have so much in common and a connection every time….I really think she could possibly be the one.

I know this is my fault for getting myself in this mess but…how do I Get Rid of Right Now so I can get with Miss Right?

--Mr. Confused

Dear Confused,

You are well on your way to becoming a baby daddy paying child support. In other words a statistic. You haven’t learned from others mistakes? I’d bet my favorite red pumps that you know another man, probably one of your boys, who has become a father before he was ready and with the wrong women just because he got lonely and wanted easy, convenient sex.

You said she was cute, the sex is good but no real connection, right? Where I come from that's called a…bed buddy, booty call or hook-up because that is what she is, no. more. no. less. But you’ve now taken a historically sexual arrangement between a man and a woman and complicated the-hell-out-of an otherwise simple routine visit. Wow! And you’re taking her word for it that she’s on the pill?  That's like players club rule #1 of which I'm sure you are breaking all the valid cardholder rules.

Never, ever,  believe a woman is on the pill, unless you’ve both had a very serious talk and agreed that you don’t want children yet—and you really believe her. Because sorry to say, but some of my female counterparts are quite relentless when it comes to locking down a man and a baby is high on the list of tactics. The loneliness, I understand, as I think we’ve all felt like that at some point or another. But if you’re just sleeping with a woman, yet have no real connection, after awhile, don’t you feel lonely even when she’s around—like there’s something missing…an emptiness?

My advice is to let Right Now down easy and give her her walking papers...yesterday. Then join a basketball league, go hang out with your boys, have a singles party at your house or join a co-ed book club…something.


As for Miss Right...she is NOT out of your league. You’re just feeling insecure which is why you're probably wasting so much time with that other chick. Dating a woman beneath your standards who is probably trying to get pregnant is not smart. 

Are you afraid if you connect with Miss Right, that it might actually work out? Believe it or not I think some men and women are afraid to be happy...but that's another post. That she might be the one or the one before the One. And that you might have to put in some work and maybe, just maybe, show a little vulnerability? Probably. Hopefully, all that doesn’t scare you, making it easier to say “she’s out of my league” or “high maintenance” rather than pursuing her. I hope not either.


I believe that we are all much the same yet from different backgrounds and varied experiences. Experiences that should be embraced and respected are often viewed as negative or a divider. So many men date beneath your core standards to elevate themselves to feel more comfortable. Yet are unhappy then years later have a long list of regrets! 

So when you talk to Miss Right at the gym you feel a connection…what else do you need? You’ve both probably discussed liking some of the same things, places and you obviously have the healthy lifestyle in common or you wouldn’t have met at the gym. She’s totally in your league. Stop playing and ask her out. Because when you see her with the next man—you’re gonna be mad while adding her to your TOTGA List (The One That Got Away) and sending me a new question entitled... How Do I Get Miss Right from Mr. Right Now?

I Hope I’m Right, Love Portland

I Got A Married Women Pregnant! What Should I Do?

Dear Portland,

Roughly three months ago, I became involved with a married woman who works in my building. Things started off innocently enough. I would see her in the hallway or in the cafeteria at lunch, and we'd exchange "hello's" and "hi's". Then, the pleasantries turned into brief flirtations. But that's all they were...flirtations. I knew she was married. I'd often see her husband picking her up or bringing their kids by the office towards the end of the work day. I have to admit, when I'd see the guy, I always thought that she was WAY out of his league.

Anyway, a little over three months ago, I walked into my office to find a note on my computer screen saying I had a great smile. It was signed only with a smiley face of its own. I had no idea who left the note until I ran into the young woman  two days later in the cafeteria. The flirtations instantly turned more intense. Our "hello's" became hugs, and whispers from her, "That's all I get?". I really didn't make too much of it because, like I said, I knew she was married, and she's much younger than me.

Around that same time, I noticed that she was no longer being picked up by her husband, and she was staying later at work. One night, I was working late and got a knock on my office door. When I looked up, it was her. She said she was coming in to say 'goodnight'. I stood up to give her a hug, and the embrace lasted longer than what one would probably consider acceptable. I'm not going to lie...I was really turned on, and I think she noticed because the embrace turned into a kiss. Nothing happened that time. But it did the next evening...yes...at work. 

And this became a reoccurring situation. Always after work...always after everyone else had left for the day.

Yes, we both understood that she was married. But her husband was in the military on a three month deployment and apparently they have one of those "understandings".

We started off being very careful. But that didn't last long, either. We got comfortable and we got sloppy.

I say sloppy because she told me last week that she is pregnant. 

Now, she has three kids and I don't have any. Because of her relationship status, I figured she wanted to get an abortion, which would have been heart breaking to me, anyway.

Instead, she told me she didn't believe in abortion and that she was going to keep the baby, and pass it off to her recently returned husband as his. She said that she didn't want me to have anything to do with the baby.

Portland, I don't know what to do. On the one hand, I don't have any other children and I want to be in my child's life. On the other hand, I don't want to disrupt her life, anymore than I already have, or the life of her children.

Please, help me...

Sincerely,

The Daddy Adulterer 

Dear Potential Daddy Adulterer, 

This situation is a hot mess...with steam coming out of it. Literally!

First and foremost, slow. down. 

In your mad dash to claim an unborn fetus because you're a single man that doesn't have children, I think you need to stop, calm down, collect your thoughts and make sure you are not being played as some potential sperm donor. This whole situation seems terribly fishy to me. I think what you are failing to realize is she was sleeping with her husband all while you were both having escapades on the desk after dark. And more important, if he was just recently deployed then there is a 50/50 chance this is not your child. The world we live in can be pretty twisted and so my radar goes up when you say she and her husband have an understanding? Understanding? Yeah, right! I don't know many men who would give his wife carte blanche to run free while he is deployed- especially not with children in the home.  And worse, she is soo willing/immediately volunteered to keep the baby and pass it off as his- that's especially why I think you may not be the father. 

Have you ever thought that maybe this couple is taking the inexpensive route to having a baby?  Perhaps they are having fertility issues and maybe some other weird marriage related problems- then here comes you walking into her life at the right time.  I'm sure you are attractive, working together made you easily accessible and how fun would it be as a married women to seduce an older single guy at work all while her husband co-signs. Easy solution reached (you)... all without the headache of the process and having to pay the doctor bills associated with fertility and deal with whatever his potential health issues are. Although a bit unconventional and perhaps far-fetched, that's just my theory...or my hot mess hypothesis- as I like to call it.

So let's say none of the above is the case- and the baby actually is yours.  After and only after you have completed a positive results DNA or blood test- then you have every right to be a part of the child's life and provide support. You both will have to work together to make that happen which may include telling her husband.  Remember they did have an agreement.  Not sure of the terms of that agreement but when you dabble in infidelity- the potential for slip-ups are strong.

If its not your baby?  Thank your higher power for sparing you the stress and potential price tag attached to having a child and vow to never sleep with married women again. Besides, who wants to explain to their 16 year old when he or she asks, how you and his/her Mom met?...umm awkward answer is putting it mildly.

Lesson "Hopefully" Learned Love,

Portland

Should A Woman Ask A Man Out?

Dear Portland,

I like this guy who works for another company in my building.  He actually isn’t that cute but looks have never been high on my list of must have’s but he looks pretty good for a man.  He has a nice personality, a good job and a pretty interesting conversation.  He works two floors down so I usually see him in the work cafeteria, the lobby or walking to and from the train.  He always speaks and walks with me if I see him walking to and from work.  How are you doing? How was your weekend?.. is usually just about the gist of our conversation.

I really think I like him and would really like him to ask me out.  My friends are tired of me talking about him and keep telling me to go ahead and make the first move and ask him out.  They say that this is 2015 and women ask men out all the time.  But I’m afraid and think I should wait for him to make the first move- which might be never.  I’m afraid though.  What should I do?

Should I make the first move?

 Dear Should You Make the First Move,

No.

I know there are those women out there who have thrown caution to the wind and have made that move and have been successful. But I know there are many who have regretted it because as time passed the guy either didn’t treat her the way she expected or if they end up dating seriously- in the back of her mind she will always wonder if he would have asked her out on his own.

Now, about those friends of yours and their advice.  I know they are probably good friends and they mean well but more than likely they are kind of tired of you talking about him and have resorted to giving you bad advice. However, please, please do not allow them to gas you up to do something that is both out of your character and your comfort zone.  Maybe your friends are those girls who ask men out- I’ve got a few of them myself- but I’m just not that girl, and it sounds like you’re not her either.

I’ve heard guys say they think it’s cool for a woman to ask them out and they encourage it… yada, yada.  Those guys are not telling the truth.  Sorry darlin’. Men aren’t telling the truth on purpose, they just think it’s a cool idea and guys usually agree with all -cool ideas- especially if it involves a woman and the potential of a physical connection. I poled two males friends at happy hour and one said he would prefer to ask her out because he would feel more in control of the date; and the other thought it would flattering, to be asked out by a woman but then asked the question… “wait, how she look?”- I cracked up laughing!...but his point was well taken.

Sometimes the ‘universe’ has a way of making us aware and even shielding women from certain men who look good on the outside but may not be good for us. Keep that in mind when you are getting antsy about some guy not making the next move…remember all that glitters may not be gold. Then there are those times when he turns out to be a great guy and you are glad he waited to ask you out because you have those pre-first date memories to laugh about in the future.

My advice to you is to stop worrying and continue being your fabulous self. If you see him in the building or outside- then talk to him like normal. Most of all continue to keep your options open. Then when you least expect it, your interest is redirected to some other man that you meet, at the grocery store or at a festival then this one will either ask you out-not sure why that always seems to happen- be placed in the 'guy you know from work' section of your life or he’ll fade-to-black. Whichever way it works out, I guarantee you will be happy with your decision to NOT make the first move.

 Stay In Your Lane Love,

Portland  

My Girlfriend Makes Alot More Money Than Me... Please Help!

Dear Portland,

I've been with my girlfriend for close to a year now, and generally, things are great. I know in my heart that she's the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. I've even been saving a little while I scope out rings. The only problem is that she makes a lot more money than I do...like A LOT!!! It's not part of our everyday conversation. But the issue does show up from time to time, like when she wants to go out to at a really nice restaurant that I can't afford, leaving her to pick up the check or me offering to split it. The most resent problem came up when she was planning her third vacation with her friends since we've been together. She's paying her way and for her younger sister to go on the trip. Other than weekend getaways to visit my parents or her parents, we've never taken a real vacation together...mostly because I can't afford a trip that would meet her high expectations. She unintentionally made me feel really bad about not having the funds to do bigger things together.

Portland, am I dating out of my league? How will I ever keep up with her if my bank account cannot catch up to hers? Please help...

Five Figure Phil

Dear Five Figure Phil,
 

Yes, you may be out of your league but your girlfriend is most certainly…out of her mind!

Phil, I don’t know any women… in contemporary American society, of any race, on any continent or for that much the universe- including undiscovered and unexplored territories on other planets that would go on 3 vacations, during a calendar year...with a bunch of women- especially if she has a man at home.  REALLY?!

I can't seem to figure out, what women sits on the beach in say Europe, better yet, Barbados (I’m going to assume one of those excursions was to the Caribbean) with that amazing sun, white sand beach, salsa music playing in the distant background, the waiter that you’re boyfriend (you're home, mad-never mind) tipped $15 when you arrived to serve and pay special attention to you both so you don’t have to get up except to get in the crystal clear blue water to cool off. It gets better. Then there’s the lady who gives amazing massages on the beach with cooling aloe vera gel, and I can't forget, the unlimited pina coladas for breakfast (Yaas!), lunch and dinner. All while laying next to your boyfriend, potentially your future fiancé' (oh, right, you’re at home) softly snoring, completely vulnerable, under the umbrella because he’s tired from the countless times in the room…well you get the point. Opps, no you don’t, because you're where? Home!

Who would trade that small slice of heaven to vacay with a bunch of chicks and her little sister?! I’m sorry, were there 3 destination bachelorette parties you forgot to mention? 

Just so we're clear- the occasional girls trip is a must -every few years or so. We ladies need a chance to reconnect and talk about all our girl stuff.  While back at home, our men play airport shuttle; chauffeuring us to the departure gate at BWI and retrieving us from the United baggage claim upon our return.  Yes, we females bond and all that jazz but…it's apples and oranges and definitely should be the second choice compared to a vacation with you.  Being a vacay companion is part of your job description as a boyfriend or girlfriend.  It. just. is.

Is she out of your league?

I really don't know. You said she brought her sister on the trip.  With that statement, I don’t know if you’re implying that you wanted her to pay for you because of your finances (I hope you didn’t mean that) vs. paying for her sister- it’s unclear.  I'd have to know more about you and her to make a better determination. But I can tell you, although money wouldn't be a deciding factor it would play a role. I would base my opinion on your education, background, drive which would all likely provide a good prospectus of your earning potential.

What I do know is- if you really like her- I think you should slow down on the ring hunt and use that money to go on a trip.  If you can’t take a vacay together what makes you think you can spend the rest of your life with her?  Go on at least one trip with her this year- excluding parental visits. No excuses, as there are too many discount internet travel sites and crazy inexpensive cruises available for you to be home while she explores the world.   

Although this relationship seems imbalanced, I really don’t know how long you can both keep ignoring the “elephant in the room” of the significant difference in finances without having a serious talk. Especially since you seem so concerned about it and you’ve been together for less than a year. You don’t say whether you are unemployed or in a low paying job.  If either is your current job status then I’m sure time and diligence will provide you with either a job, or a better one.

But just so you know, there’s always going to be someone in the relationship who earns more money and the man is usually much happier if it’s him. But since it’s currently not you, what’s not cool is you crying broke and she tossing money around like it grows on trees. Saving is important but so isn't spending quality time together and that usually costs money.  So the subject of saving and spending for entertainment etc. should be a part of the "elephant” conversation along with some of your other concerns- and hers too. 

Now, I Need A Vacation Love,

Portland

I Miss Being Strong!

Dear Portland,
I miss being strong! When I was younger, I used to have unshakeable faith in myself. No matter how hard things got, or whatever befell me, I always kept trying. I'm still trying, but I lost so much faith my ability to succeed. And I'm worried I'm becoming a jaded cynic. How, besides actually really succeeding at something, can I regain my confidence and faith in myself?

My strong is gone


Dear My Strong Is Gone,
Wow what an honest question!
I applaud you for seeing and admitting that things have changed in your life from positive to somewhat cynical--and you want your old self back. It seems to me that something has shaken your once high self esteem.  You don't mention what that specific thing was or whether it was a series of things in your question but that is what I must assume.  Age, rejection both personal and professional can play a role in moving from a place of yes to uncertainty.  But rest assure you are not the only one.  Many people suffer from this- its called growing up. And yes, sometime it can suck but keeping a positive attitude and not taking life too seriously is something you can consider working on. The fact that you are self-aware puts you heads and tails above the rest. Many people cannot understand their own feelings much less articulate them the way you did. I applaud you for that!
Although you're older now and likely have more responsibilities, try to remember where you were and what you were doing when you had this unshakeable faith in yourself- and try to somewhat mimic that time. For example, in college, maybe you ran track or played on the tennis team and now you've stopped participating in those activities you enjoyed because family and work responsibilities have taken up more of your time?  Or maybe you've abandoned your passion... for singing or dancing? Perhaps take a class at your local community college or volunteer-all communities seem to be in need of people who are willing to donate their time. Choose wisely then start slowly by picking at least one thing that you enjoy and I'm confident that you'll soon be looking at the old new and improved you in no time.

Unshakably Strong Love,
Portland

Should I Tell My Friend He's Gay?!

Dear Portland,

I have a male friend that I love to death. He is cool, sweet, attentive and gives me advice about guys and all kinds of stuff. The problem is he hardly ever talks about women, doesn't date often and he has some feminine ways about him...small ones that is. He's a nice looking guy too, definitely a man women would be checking for. He loves to hang out with me and my girlfriends and has a few guy friends that he hangs out with but they are pretty regular. I want to say something but I fear it would effect our friendship. Should I tell him or wait for him to come out to me?

Concerned

Dear Concerned,

If you really consider him a good friend, under NO circumstances should you TELL HIM that he's gay!

Ok, yes, he's a little feminine and he hardly ever talks about other women-- but that doesn't mean he's gay. Did you ever consider that he might like you? He's not going to approach other women around you if he's interested in you.. And just because he likes hanging out with you and your girlfriends shouldn't make him "suspect." Maybe he'll do anything to see and spend time with you--even if that means hanging out with you and your all-girl-band. Just a thought. And believe me, if his friends are regular guys-it's rare that regular guys will hang out with a man who's gay. That would be strange.

If he tells you he wants to be a hairdresser, becomes your personal stylist or asks to borrow a skirt...then there might be reason for concern. But until one of those situations arises or something similar-- relax.

Although most of us women don't like it, some men have slight feminine ways. You've probably heard the term metrosexual, a guy who is more into his appearance etc. than traditional men but is not considered gay. There are alot of metro-sexuals at the club, lounges, grocery store-everywhere. Look around you'll see. Also, every man isn't trying to connect with every woman he sees. Some men are very targeted and particular about the women they approach especially when he's at the point in life where he's ready to settle down.

If you are concerned about him and his sexuality, then the best thing that you can do for your friend-is to be a friend. A friend who isn't judgemental, a confidant that he can talk to about almost anything. If it turns out that he is gay I can almost guarantee he will tell you when he is ready. Until then, zip those lips because good friends- straight or gay- are hard to find- and if you're wrong, it could damage your friendship.

Metro Love, Portland

The Drunk Calls...

Dear Portland,

My ex keeps drunk calling me. He tells me in his drunken stupor how much he loves me and wants me back. The problem is when we actually talk when he's sober he can't say any of the things he says during the sloppy voicemails. I really would like to get back together with him but I don't know where his feelings are...and for that much mine?

Not Drunk but Confused,

Dear Not Drunk but Confused,

Aww... the drunk call. I've gotten a few of those and call me silly but they're kinda nice! You either get them from a guy that is crushing on you- who is afraid of rejection, a current boyfriend you're having problems with or an ex who's trying to work through some feelings.

The drunk call is actually quite sweet in a dysfunctional sort of way. He probably loves you and most certainly doesn't know how to or is afraid to share his feelings...sober. So when he has had one too many, the thought of you consumes his brain, he dials your number and the rest just... blame it on the liquor.

If this was a guy who just had a crush on you, I'd say to casually approach him and tell him you might be intersted too. But since this is an ex that you want back then you probably should take the high road. Ask him to meet you in the park or a nice, quiet, somewhat romantic place to talk. In a playful, slightly serious, "I thought that was really sweet" way, tell him you've gotten his messages and would like to talk with the hopes of working things out. That way when he meets you he'll know that the goal is to get back together making it easier for him to share his true feelings- without the help of a drink. Good luck!

Sweet Walter Red(my favorite wine) Love, Portland

What's the Point of Playing Hard To Get?!

Dear Portland,

If you are feeling a dude that respectfully approaches you, what is the point of “playing hard to get?”

Respectful Guy

Dear Respectful,

Classic…

For most women it’s pretty simple. If he’s interested he’ll show you and more than once if necessary. Why do we do this? Because we are not sure of your REAL intentions and we aren’t really sure if we like you yet. Yes, you may express your most heart felt feelings, which we like, but your actions speak louder than the words.

A man will see a woman of interest and approach her as soon as the coast is clear. Because men tend to take a woman for her word and almost immediately is ready to move forward. Not always a good thing but that’s a whole new question to answer. Women are a bit more cautious when approached by a man. Although the exterior package may look correct—getting to know you is usually what we’re doing. Are you really as good of a man as you say you are? Baggage, etc…

So, I apologize for all the women in your life that have or are playing hard to get but hopefully one of them is worth the effort.


"Hard To Get" Love, Portland

He Keeps Buying Me Lingerie...

Dear Portland,

My husband keeps buying me lingerie for my birthday. I know I should be appreciative, and I am, to some degree, but every year it doesn’t fit. I’m a plus-size woman and it’s usually hideous, but most of all it isn’t for me. Lingerie is really for him to enjoy that night. I want a gift for me, like jewelry, not something I’m going to wear for 2 minutes, wash the next day and toss in the drawer.

Upset

Dear Upset,

I get it. You want your husband to buy a more personal gift for your birthday that only you can enjoy, like a piece of jewelry, AND something sexy, that's pretty and fits.

Although ugly and ill fitting—I do like that he’s taking the time to shop for you, so let’s not spoil his fun. He probably enjoys the whole shopping adventure, unlike most men who would be a nervous-wreck in the lingerie section of Macy’s or Victoria’s Secret.

The size part—I do understand as no one feels sexy in something that doesn’t fit. Simply ask him to get you the next size. Fredericks of Hollywood, www.fredericks.com offers various sizes, props and accessories too.

Please overlook his poor taste, as he obviously is pleased with his purchase and you did say it will only be on for a few minutes—so just smile and say thank you.

As for the jewelry…I consulted two of my married girlfriends on this one. To ensure that you get, let’s say, that bracelet you want, tell him, in a nice way, what and where to purchase if you don’t trust his taste here. Better yet, put it on hold and tell the salesperson your husband is coming in to buy “this”- then send hubby off to the mall. When he gets home you can slip into your new outfit—that fits—and “officially” thank him for your birthday gifts.

“Birthday Suit,” Love, Portland

Why Do All Women Say They Like A Big Penis?

Dear Portland,

Why do all women say they like a big penis?

--Annoyed

Dear Annoyed,

I don't think I ever heard a man say he doesn't like breasts?! Sorry, but its the world we live in...or better yet, the bed we have sex in!

Actually, most women will tell you that width and thickness is what is most desired. Most women simply cannot feel a small penis once inserted. Once all the juices are flowing and the inside of the vagina is ready to be penetrated...a small penis will just get lost in the sauce.

You didn't mention whether you were "annoyed" because you've just heard women say the aforementioned or if you are having issues in the "size" department. If you are having a problem with size, I suggest you become the expert at some other sexual act...perhaps oral. Or see your doctor to discuss enlargement. There are all kinds of products, both prescription and homeopathic, on the market that can help enlarge your appendage. There seems to be a support group for everything now-- maybe one exists, where there are women who are attracted to or need men with varied size penis'.

In any event, sex is very important in a relationship and size does matter...but it's not the only thing that matters. Remember..."It's not the size of the wand, it's the magic in it!"

"Penis" Love, Portland