Dear Portland,
I have been seeing Sean on and off for a few months. When we are together we have a great time. We laugh, I can really talk to him and we have a fabulous sexual chemistry. Yet, between dates he drops off the radar. We are both pretty busy , but when I call him, he usually doesn't get back to me for days or weeks then calls and suggests meeting. I want things to be more serious and can't wait forever. What should I do because I want more of a committment.
Dear More Committment Wanted,
Sorry but this is a perfect example of a woman not managing her expectations. Although Sean is fun and you have chemistry, he has not said he cares for you and would like to be more than friends or asked you to be his girlfriend. Until he says any of those things he is a really cool friend that you have fun with but you should continue to see other men. Because he is most likely seeing other women.
Stop calling him too. If I knew someone wasn't going to answer when I call or was going to get back to me weeks later and act like nothing happened--yeah stop calling. You said that you have fabulous sexual chemistry, right? I'm not sure if that means you have had sex with him or really want too... but please dont if you haven't. Not every guy is meant for you no matter how great he seems. And Sean's actions are saying he isnt ready for anything serious with you.
Look at it this way...you just met one of many nice guys out there ...and the next one you meet will be yours.
Keep Dating Love,
Portland
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