May 29, 2010

The Drunk Calls...

Dear Portland,

My ex keeps drunk calling me. He tells me in his drunken stupor how much he loves me and wants me back. The problem is when we actually talk when he's sober he can't say any of the things he says during the sloppy voicemails. I really would like to get back together with him but I don't know where his feelings are...and for that much mine?

Not Drunk but Confused,


Dear Not Drunk but Confused,

Aww... the drunk call. I've gotten a few of those and call me silly but they're kinda nice! You either get them from a guy that is crushing on you- who is afraid of rejection, a current boyfriend you're having problems with or an ex who's trying to work through some feelings.

The drunk call is actually quite sweet in a dysfunctional sort of way. He probably loves you and most certainly doesn't know how to or is afraid to share his feelings...sober. So when he has had one too many, the thought of you consumes his brain, he dials your number and the rest just... blame it on the liquor.

If this was a guy who just had a crush on you, I'd say to casually approach him and tell him you might be intersted too. But since this is an ex that you want back then you probably should take the high road. Ask him to meet you in the park or a nice, quiet, somewhat romantic place to talk. In a playful, slightly serious, "I thought that was really sweet" way, tell him you've gotten his messages and would like to talk with the hopes of working things out. That way when he meets you he'll know that the goal is to get back together making it easier for him to share his true feelings- without the help of a drink. Good luck!

Sweet Walter Red(my favorite wine) Love, Portland